Today, my friend's, Mr. Rose and I have been married for T-E-N years.
Not that I'm a professional or anything, but I wanted to share the top 4 things I've learned about marriage:
1) It's not easy. Marriage takes a lot of work. I don't think I fully realized this when I got married. I just figured that, since we were in love (sigh...), the rest of life would take care of itself. Nope. Real life pretty much sucks sometimes.
2) NEWSFLASH: There are somethings that aren't going to change and you just have to learn to live with them. I grit my teeth when I'm angry. He leaves his shoes out and I trip over them every day. Get over it. (Grrrrr...)
3) Marriage isn't about relying on someone else to make you happy. You're responsible for your own happiness. Happiness is a choice and being content with the life you have is a state of being.
4) Marriage is about intentionally putting someone else's needs above your own...by the way...it's not the kid's needs that I'm referring to. Imagine that...if SHE'S putting him first and HE'S putting her first...it's a WIN-WIN, people!!! On a side note, I should add that it took awhile before we figured out how to keep diabetes a lower priority than our relationship. It helped that we both actively pursued the skills necessary to overcome the challenge with our marriage intact -- from a marriage seminar to a small group Bible series focused on marriage to reading books to finding mentors to help us along the way... hands down, I would say that making it a priority to attend church together every weekend (regardless of how busy our lives are) is the strongest tool in our marital toolbox.
|The Wonder Years|
PS -- We have special plans to celebrate...
But I'm not telling.